Am I Uptight? 5 Ways To Know Loosen Up

Some personality traits are difficult to be with, work with, or associate with. They make everything an effort and suck the joy out of fun things, and others often describe them as uptight. 

If you agree with a few of these behaviours in the bullet list below, you’re most likely uptight. Depending on how vocal you are about your displeasure, you might struggle with making meaningful connections. 

This article will help you tone down the uptight look and be more sociable.

What Does It Mean If A Person Is Uptight?

What does uptight mean? People are fond of throwing out the word at others, especially when they are particularly difficult. If you’ve ever had the uptight tag used on you and wondered, “Am I uptight? What makes me uptight?” you’re about to know. 

An uptight person is someone who is tense, irritated, and difficult to hang out with because they are unable to relax enough to have fun. Some synonyms used to describe uptight people include the following: 

• Apprehensive;
• Cautious;
• Anxious;
• Nervous;
• Uneasy.

These synonyms might help you place yourself as uptight or not. But if you require more help knowing if you’re uptight, here are some of the character traits of uptight people. 

People who are uptight:

• Look down on behaviour they consider silly or childish;
• Set ridiculously high standards for everyone and themselves;
• Always have to be controlled, well-behaved, and proper;
• Struggle with having fun and can stop fun activities or avoid them even if they want to do it;
• Worry too much about other people’s behaviour;
• Are too sensitive and overreact when things don’t go according to plan;
• They are almost always irritated by little things, especially when those things offend their high standards.

5 Ways To Loosen Up If You’re Uptight

Address Underlying Conditions Making You Uptight

Some conditions make people uptight or exacerbate their uprightness. Addressing these conditions could help you loosen up and be more accommodating of others. Anxiety is a common condition that contributes to uptightness. Chronically anxious people struggle with anything that doesn’t fall within their controlled zone. Being in a constant state of worry can make them quite insensitive to other people’s quirks. It also makes them more irritable and likely to snap at others for minor annoyances. 

If you suffer from anxiety, treating your condition might help you loosen up enough to be social.

Understand That People Are Different

Understanding that people are unique, with different types of intelligence, personalities, behaviours, and quirks, helps loosen up. Instead of sneering and telling someone off for certain quirks and behaviours, you may extend grace to them, understanding that those quirks make them special. 

Most importantly, it helps you set realistic expectations of the people around you instead of expecting everyone to fall in line with your own ideals.

Bend The Rules More

Obeying the rules is great, but sometimes bending them feels better. It all depends on what rules these are. If there are laws prohibiting crime and mayhem, you should follow those by all means. But some rules are more fun to bend than follow. Even if you don’t want to involve yourself, you shouldn’t have to spoil it for others. 

Accept That You Can’t Control Everything

Control is important for uptight people. They don’t only want to control themselves, they want to control others as well. Learn to let go of the idea that you can control every reaction, every occurrence and everyone. So, why not let loose and have fun on the ride anyway. 

Don’t Hold Others To Your Standards

We’ve already established how important standards are to uptight people. They often use their ridiculous standards to judge others and then be rude when people don’t fall in line. 

This time around, understand that your standards are just for you and no one else.

Final Thoughts

An uptight personality might hinder your ability to make meaningful social connections. Judging them based on your standards and constantly nitpicking their actions make people feel uncomfortable around you. But you can loosen up a bit with the steps discussed above.